Reframe of Single Womanhood

At the beginning I would often thnk about what I’m lacking not being in a relationship.  Just recently have I begun embracing it. Though tonight is a cold night and I had a stressful day at work today…he would usually be right here with me on Thursday nights. Not sure I’d even want him here anymore to be honest. I have only changed for the better; learning how to take care of myself and identify my triggers…healing myself internally and (somewhat) privately. I have realized some ugly truths about myself as well. It’s been a little over 2 months. I’m moving along OK. I miss routines, people, places, and things with him. And his humor…he was funny and corny and 75% got me. I think there may be someone who will 100% get me out there. Anyway, back to this reframe…here are 20 reasons why being single may be the best blessing for me:

  1. I’m on my own time and no one else’s.
  2. I let my apartment be messy during the week with no one to judge it but me and maintenance, should I have a maintenance issue and they need to come in (they’ve seen worse, I am sure).
  3. I have a lot more quiet time in by bed at night journaling, drinking something warm, reading, blogging, being on my phone, whatever…like now for example. 🙂
  4. I don’t feel bad about myself or question my profession or ability to make money and be successful in my career/life every 3-5 minutes of my day.
  5. I spend more time with my friends and family.
  6. I feel more present with myself and with my friends and family. I’m less preoccupied.
  7. I don’t rely on him for validation and am learning to rely more on myself (this one is a toughie for me).
  8. I picked up Muay Thai and am discovering/rediscovering my passions and interests.
  9. I’m going out to dinner and taking out way less.
  10. I have a lot more time to myself.
  11. I can put butter on my pancakes without judgment.
  12. I feel proud of where I went to school.
  13. I can begin to envision my own life goals, regardless of it not meeting others’ standards.
  14. I can be proud that my upbringing and mother are important parts of my life story.
  15. I can make decisions for myself.
  16. I can feel enough.
  17. I cry less.
  18. I am doing the “work” on myself that I wouldn’t have otherwise been able to do in that relationship.
  19. I am deepening my relationship with God through church, yoga, and reiki.
  20. I am learning all about me before I have to be a girlfriend, fiancé, wife, and mother one day.


Goodnight ❤


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